This was supposed to be a quick response to a subscriber to my High Performance Daily email series.
I like my day job but I also want to launch my e-commerce website.
I just find it difficult to work after a long day of work where I had to use my brain a lot (i work as an engineer). I try to find some time during the week and on the weekend but it’s hard to find motivation.
Do you have any advice?
A quick response to this simple question turned into this ultimate energy management reference guide you see right in front of you.
This is my go-to system I use whenever I feel like I need a pick-me-up.
Energy management is a huge topic. Fitness, losing weight, nutrition, supplements… these are in themselves multi-billion dollar industries. And they are all useful.
Whenever I watch people focusing on losing weight, I love their ambition and yet at the same time I see they are focusing on just 10% of everything else that CAN be there in their life.
For example, I have not yet seen a person who is up to big things in life not want to address their health (along with 50 other things).
So it’s not that an overweight person is not doing the right things. It’s just the goal in itself is not big enough to keep them motivated.
Losing weight becomes like a second nature when the person realizes they simply want to have the energy to live a life full of progress, purpose, impact, presence and fulfillment (not to mention the prosperity that comes with it!)
Here’s a quick recap of everything that I’ll cover here:
- Decision Making Battery
- Divine Connection
- eDad Filter
- Brain Health
- Thick Skin
- Gray Zone
- Energy-Source Activities
- Donor vs Acceptor
- One Minute Actions
- Overarching Life Purpose
- Next 90 Day Purpose
- Dealing with Overwhelm
- Controlling Inputs
- Beliefs Before Actions
- Prioritizing Activities
- Mind Control and Brainwashing
- State Control
Let’s dive in…
When I was in high school my schedule was to wake up at 4:30am to be at school for some kind of sports practice at 6am.
*Side note:* I was on a whole bunch of sports teams and an Athlete of the Year in grade 11 and 12. My main focus was on swimming and volleyball.
I’d have more practice or some other after school activity. I’d come back home for 6pm, eat and nap till about 8pm where I then spent another 4 hours geeking out on the Internet till about midnight.
This in total gave me about 6 hours of sleep.
Then in University I went for trying the polyphasic sleep that astronauts use in space to sleep only 2.5 hours a day.
It goes like this … You stay up for 4 hours. Sleep for 20 minutes.
For 2 weeks I felt like a zombie while I was getting into this sleep cycle. I was training my body to learn that it needs to get into deep REM sleep cycle QUICK. Because that’s how much your body typically sleeps in REM (2.5 hours) during the regular 8 hours, coming in and out of REM.
I couldn’t drive my car. Barely focused on studies. At night I’d go to 24 hour grocery stores to pass time away from my seductive pillow and cash in on yesterday’s bulk bread buns offers for $3 (perfect for my student budget!)
After about 2 weeks I was able to feel my body adjust. I felt clearer. My energy began to return. And I was amazed at how well it worked after all the effort and endless nights I spent on trying NOT to fall asleep (while flipping between watching mindless TV shows and online educational programs).
Too bad this type of schedule is next to impossible to keep with today’s societal norms. If you skip one of these 20 minute naps every 4 hours, all that hard work is out the window.
That’s what happened to me. I had to be out of the house for about 6 hours. I don’t quite remember why. But I did. Upon my return I went straight to bed for my 20 minute nap with the alarm set.
Needless to say I woke up hours later. Not really much refreshed. A feeling mixed between defeat and accomplishment. I was able to get into the polyphasic sleep cycle and feel its effects, and also experience how impractical it is for our day and age (unless you are in space serving humanity!)
So back to my 6 hours-a-night sleep schedule I went.
I thought I needed only 6 hours.
Only after learning all the brain scientific jargon and the importance of having the 8 hour sleep for our bodies did I begin to realize the foundational importance of having an 8 hour sleep. Each night.
Mindfulness, clarity, creativity, mood, emotions, productivity, social interactions and many more areas of life simply depend on having a good night of sleep.
Sometimes I still cut it short to meet a deadline or otherwise but I still strive for a full on 8 hour sleep.
And no, catching up on the weekend is not going to fix it!
From the get go, I’m not a nutrition expert. There are better, more qualified people in the world who can help you with your nutrition advice.
What I know is that having bread in the morning makes my brain foggy till afternoon.
Having pasta, meat or other heavy sauces at lunch makes me want to go to sleep right around 2pm time.
I loathed my days when I’d have this filthy lunch (which was almost every day due to lack of my awareness back then) and then having to fight through the 2-3pm downtime. My productivity halted to an absolute ZERO and I’d fight to stop my eyes and my head from bobbing every time I snoozed in front of my computer screen.
At that time I didn’t have the luxury of working from home and be only steps away from a comfy bed or a couch either.
So it was a nightmare to deal with!
Along with all the other advice you can read elsewhere on the Internet of eating your greens, I’ll also mention looking at nutrient-dense foods (including researching down to the soil composition of where the food is grown), and perhaps keeping a food diary matching it to your energy levels right after you eat something.
You are indeed what you eat…
I also wanted to mention what I see in bio-hacking community.
Nootropics… or brain enhancing supplements and micro-dosing are becoming quite popular.
What’s hilarious about it is people who are still having pizza and coke for lunch are the ones who are buying these “pills”.
My best advice here is start with the basics before you move onto space-age bio-technology foods!
- At first you LEARN about it
- Then you DO it
- And then you MASTER it!
Along with a few more advanced tricks I do with my hydration, the basics I can share with you here is that you are 60% water.
And if you consider breathing and oxygen to be the energy source for our bodies then your lungs are at even higher 83% of water composition.
When you run dry, so does the function of your body.
I stopped drinking sodas (Coka Cola kind) back in high school after I got into a somewhat minor car accident… Visualize me riding a bike on the road and a wide sports car door flinging open right in front of me, leaving me with no choice but to go flying through the glass and eventually fracturing my humerus bone – it wasn’t THAT funny at the time!
It didn’t seem like any major accident and I thought my bones should’ve handled it no problem being a young and healthy guy. So I blamed the amount of coke cans I was drinking a day to have consumed the appropriate amount of calcium in my bones to weaken them to a breaking point.
Since then… no sugary drinks, no juice, little milk. Water only.
Now I make efforts to seek fluoride-free water wherever I go and away from plastic bottles (not always possible). For many reasons that I can elaborate on if we ever sit down for a chat.
Motion drives E-Motion.
Your body is built to move.
Sedentary lifestyle of today with car trips to the gym and moving escalators to get you up INTO the gym are to blame.
I stick to Yogananda’s Energization Exercises that you can access when you subscribe to Self-Realization Fellowship mail-correspondence lessons. (I share an instructional video with those who join my Powered Up Living Circle and break it down into 3 phases to get you started easily with these).
These are what I call rotate-every-joint-flex-every-muscle program that I’ve combined with breathing work of Systema (Russian Martial Art).
I’m also now working up to hit 30 pull-ups along with playing some volleyball and squash from time to time.
In general I’m against the injury-prone Crossfits, Orange Fitness, and overall weight training (especially if you’re hitting over 35 years young).
Walking and raising heartbeat for at least 20 minutes a day is the minimal thing you can do. This was a pre-requisite for my home buying decision – I needed to have a nearby Starbucks from my home within a 20 minute walk.
Again, there’s a plethora of fitness programs out there, choose one and stick to it (feel free to change it up once in a while as well – no gym membership required!)
5. Decision Making Battery
This is a huge part of energy drain.
Every day you wake up with your battery filled up. It may not always be up to 100% in the mornings but most days it goes up.
The more you go along your day and the more decisions you are required to make, the faster it goes down.
This is the Number 2 reason for you feeling drained by the end of the day. (See point #14. Cadence for the Number 1 reason.)
Everything that is not a habit drains your battery.
The clothes you put on. The breakfast you have. The emails you respond to. The new things you’ve gotta do that day. EVERYTHING that’s not a habit drains your battery.
Hence the title of a great book “Will Power Doesn’t Work”.
You’ve probably heard Steve Job’s preference to wear black turtlenecks. I stick to my purple #UnfearFailure and plain white T-shirts.
In the evening after doing some heavy decision making my girlfriend and I may take up to an hour to decide what we want to eat for dinner. No battery left. Except we realize that and find someone else who still got some juice left to help us out.
Paleo diet is the craze (eating meats and greens). So is Ketogenic (using fats for energy instead of sugar).
Whatever floats your boat in that regard, the foods you eat today are not what they used to be even in the last decade.
Farm soil erosion, use of industrial chemicals, pesticides, GMO, over-farming and soil-fatigue are all part of the problem.
Farmers’ focus on organic material to keep the soil afloat is also the culprit. It is not the organic material that’s now missing in our foods but those micro-elements that come from rock and other natural occurring minerals (including non-heavy metals that are so needed for proper functioning of our body systems).
I’m now playing with growing my own superfood (including growing it indoors 365 days a year) but if you are just starting out supplementation is of the essence.
Again, I’m not the best bio-hacker our there. I’ll refer you to this article that I used to fill my pill-cabinet.
That along with gut-health, your DNA-build-up, and other body needs that may require a consult with your doctor (or other health professional) to keep your system up and running well (see my brain-health story below).
I try to stay away from pharmaceutical drugs and only stick to what’s missing from my usual food supply.
7. Divine Connection
Whether you believe in God or not, there is a Universal Divine force that’s all around us.
It’s a source of energy for all that is.
Your soul and your energy body are what controls your life-force (Qi, Chi, Ki and however else you want to name it).
This goes into the Esoteric aspect of Energy Management that has not yet been proven in a scientific lab setting (at least not to my knowledge, if you have any updates please DO let me know).
This is a much larger subject than I can fit in this article and I practice it every day. Members of my Powered Up Living Circle get more access to discover what it is through our monthly Spirit Energization sessions.
Filling up your Life Force is essential to having all the energy you need!
That presentation that you’ve got to do before Monday is eating up your energy.
Your child’s health and well-being eat up your energy.
Your made up stories about things that may never come eat up your energy.
It’s just how it is.
Detaching is a way to stop the energy drain, plug up the holes so then you can focus on filling that energy back up.
Conflicts will happen. Irrational emotional reactions will happen. Unexpected life circumstances and events will happen. Mastering the detachment process will help you ease the energy drain that occurs and then react accordingly.
Every item on this list will help you detach. Along with all kinds of other meditations, visualizations, mindful and spiritual practices.
There are two specific practices I use to stay detached. They are quite similar and I use them at different points when I feel like I begin to depend too much on things that are outside of my control.
From the “Broken Windows Broken Business” principles, I judge the quality of a business by the state of its wash rooms.
On a personal level that applies to the state of your kitchen sink at any time of your day.
Your physical environment, your To Do list, and even your calendar have a lot to do with your energy management.
Keep. It. Stupid. Simple.
Remove the complexities. Remove the garbage. Eliminate the unnecessary. Give away your clothes. Free up your closet. Clean up your wash room and kitchen sink. Including your basement and cabinets.
Look at your calendar. Look at your inbox. Look at your desk.
Clean. Clear. And out of the way!
Free up some of that energy into better-use things.
10. eDad Filter
I protect my calendar like a castle. My To-Do list included.
Time is my most precious commodity. I cannot create any more time. I can only protect it, and buy it back.
Which is this eDad Filter that gets applied to everything I do (and don’t do). It stands for:
- Do (or Schedule To Do)
Ask any 7-figure earner. Saying Yes got them to a 6-figure level. Saying No got them to 7-figures.
This includes doing every day tasks. Things like grocery shopping, cooking food, cleaning the house, doing laundry. Business things might include social media, emails, videos, meetings.
Treat this as your eDad father figure who’s out there to protect you. For your best interests. Seek advice from it.
11. Brain Health
Here we get to expand definition of energy from a physical energy and well being to mental clarity and absence of brain-fog.
That includes your mood and emotions.
Depressive episodes, fatigue and other mental health ailments can be bucketed into this category.
I agree with Daniel Amen, author of “Change Your Brain Change Your Life” how his initial field of clinical psychology is the only medical field of practice that DID NOT look at the actual physical organ it was treating.
Now through his research they’ve done over 100,000 brain scans and I’ve done one as well through a similar EEG application. Sensing the electrical signals that pass through my brain.
Your brain is the control center of your body, and it requires a certain up-keep as well.
Various exercises, supplements and habits all affect your brain health. The good news is that brain is malleable and it can be improved. At any age.
If you’re looking for more energy, brain health might be the thing to look into.
Nothing happens in life that is not in accordance with your self-image.
That’s according to Maxwell Maltz and his Psycho-Cybernetics study, a renowned plastic surgeon who after physically (aka through surgery) changing people’s faces noticed that people didn’t *see* their new physical appearance but stuck to their old internal self-image.
It’s what drives your subconscious.
It’s where all your self-sabotage comes from.
If you believe that money is evil. No matter how amazing of an idea you come up with, you’ll find your way to wiggle out of making any financial benefit out of it.
If you feel that you are not worthy, no way will your self-image allow you to accomplish anything worthwhile.
Also known as Automatic Success Mechanism, once properly tuned will help you manage your energy.
All kinds of strategies exist here. It is not your IQ that matters… it is your SI (Self-Image)!
13. Thick Skin
Courage, certainty and confidence play a role here.
If you have none of the above, no matter how much you try to push a rock up a hill… you will not be able to move it an inch.
In my experience there’s no better way to grow thick skin than to send daily emails to absolute strangers who care about nothing else but themselves.
It also took a substantial amount of work to get here.
First there comes certainty that a certain strategy might work.
Then there comes courage to take action in the face of potential failure and finally only after many attempts will you begin to develop your confidence.
And it’s a cycle.
The more certainty you get, the more courage you get, the move confidence you get.
It can also be a downward spiral.
The less certainty you have, the less courage you use to take any action, the less confidence you have in yourself or in the World in general.
Nobody owes you anything. Yes, there are haters out there. Yes, they will stand in your way. Just like crabs in the bucket… they’ll try to pull you right down.
At the same time your thick skin will help you change lives for the better.
Your own life… your family’s.
There’s no better gift in the world than your ability to act in face of ridicule and non-acceptance.
At the same time, believe it or not, there are people who are out there who want you to succeed.
Perhaps their life will at some day depend on you.
Cadence means rhythm.
There’s rhythm to everything in life. From the way your heart beats, to summer and winter seasons, to night and day.
Your energy supply has rhythm as well.
When you sleep you have a 90 minute sleep cycle where you go in and out of your deep REM sleep (like I mentioned above).
When you are awake you have a cycle as well.
When I was working full time in an office all day it would look like this:
- 7:30am – wake up
- 8am – rush off to work
- 9am – start work
- 12:30pm – lunch
- 1pm – work
- 5 or 6pm – go home
- 7pm – exhausted to do anything else at home but to lie on the couch
Compare it to my schedule today:
- 6am – wake up and begin my morning routine with plenty of time to relax
- 9am – begin high intensity work
- 10:20am – 10 min break to re-charge
- 10:30am – begin 2nd high intensity work session
- 12pm – break for 1.5 hour lunch
- 1:30pm – do 30 minute Pomodoro Technique session #1
- 1:55pm – break for 5min
- 2pm – 30 min Pomodoro session #2
- 2:30pm – break for 30 min
- 3pm – 30 min Pomodoro session #3
- 3:30pm – 30 min Pomodoro session #4
- 4pm – open schedule to do whatever else I wish for that day
- 6pm – plenty of energy to do anything else
I don’t always stick to it but it’s majority of the days. I still get WAY more done with this cadence/rhythm and get to feel ENERGIZED by the end of it all.
Breaks, nutrition, hydration – all of these play into your natural energy cadence.
The way you walk, talk, sit, stand, move your hands, your face, your lips – all of these have EVERYTHING to do with the amount energy you have or GET to have.
Ever heard of Power Positions?
Certain physical stances you can use to experience feeling powerful, confident, superior, and energetic.
For example, I began to notice that whenever I watch a movie on our big screen while lying down and holding my head up (imagine head tucked in with chin touching the chest), I always tended to fall asleep or at least feel so lethargic and lazy that I wouldn’t want to do anything else after that.
Fake smiling in front of the mirror to make yourself feel good and happy is all about this. And it works!
You begin to master physiology by first having awareness of how your body is positioned when you feel less than energetic.
Your stooped shoulders. Crouched back. Lowered neck.
Again walking for just 20 minutes a day plays into this as well.
This is where you get to use the wonderful intricacies of your body to have it play along with you rather than having to take care of it all the time. Use it to your advantage!
16. Gray Zone
In the evenings, when it is time to relax, you probably have thoughts running in your head…
Gotta send this email… gotta respond to that email… can’t forget about this… can’t forget about that… or have to grab this thing when I’m there next… and what else am I forgetting?
From the book “Your Brain at Work” you get to imagine your brain like a stage at a local school play.
You have players on stage. – These are the conscious thoughts you keep juggling in your head.
You have the players in the audience. – These are the things that you’ve put outside of your conscious awareness for the time being while you focus only on the players on stage.
You have the lights that get brighter or dimmer depending on the amount of players on the stage. – This is your brain energy. And it runs on a battery.
If you never shut your stage off for the evening or for any moment of time to let the lights cool off and recharge, you will burn out the lights.
Plus if you keep juggling between players and the amount of time and energy it takes them from sitting down in the audience and then coming up again, that tires your players out as well!
That’s where focusing on just one thing makes it so powerful. Just a few lights to keep one player on stage. And that player doesn’t need to keep jumping on and off the stage. That thought, that player is in focus and it doesn’t take much energy to keep it there.
Same goes when you go off to vacation.
You’ve got to recharge those batteries. You’ve got to shut the stage off.
It is a learned skill to do so. But you can get there. Meditation is a part of it. So are a few other strategies we discuss in our Powered Up Living Circle.
17. Energy-Source Activities
My girlfriend loves to play volleyball. And dancing.
I do OK with both. I enjoy them but it wouldn’t be my go-to strategy to relax and recharge.
Mine would be to go out for a walk in the forest with our dog. Or do some kind of other intense physical exercise (not weight lifting, see my notes above).
I have my other activities I default to when I’m feeling low on energy. Telling you them wouldn’t serve you justice. They’ll probably be different from yours anyway.
These include what it is that you do for fun.
Sometimes these could be not something you enjoy in the act of doing it… but you get to feel great afterwards (yes, like a workout perhaps). Or public speaking (see my notes below about Donor vs Acceptor).
Introverts and Extraverts would have opposing views in this manner. But not 100% either. You’d be surprised to know that I’m an Introvert who needs to go out into the public to gain energy.
Find your Energy-Source activities and make sure to include them into your weekly schedule (if not daily).
18. Donor vs Acceptor
This is probably something you’ll get to know about for the first time in your life.
This concept I’m still fully piecing together but it works in this way…
You may or may not have heard that there are people you’d call “energy vampires”. You would also probably agree that you’ve experienced it yourself in your life at one time or another.
These are energy draining people. They may be complainers, negative, or otherwise depressed people who you simply don’t want to be around.
That’s one way to look at it.
Another way is to understand that there are people who are born into being either a Donor or an Acceptor. That is a person who either is able to generate energy on their own (donor) or those who cannot generate their own energy and must simply exchange it with other people (acceptors).
This is not about Introvert/Extrovert definition that the society seems to have falsely claimed is a way for people to “regain energy”. No, introvert and extrovert is simply their ability to respond to a stimulus and the way their brain circuitry is wired to process dopamine.
Donor/Acceptor is completely perpendicular to Introvert/Extrovert. As in an Introvert can be a Donor or Acceptor and an Extrovert can be a Donor or Acceptor. (I’m an Introverted Acceptor by the way, that is why I love working in public spaces like Starbucks or otherwise, I need to exchange energy with other people).
Once you understand this concept and find out which one you are (and your partner), it’ll make it so much easier to keep your battery full-er.
19. One Minute Actions
It’s tax time. You know you have a whole weekend in front of you to gather all of the documentation together. You are trying to figure out how you can do it all at once.
You are fantasizing about getting it done but nothing happens. You can’t get to it. The task seems too big to chew on.
So you procrastinate.
And without detaching you keep having your energy drained by these BIG ANIMALS.
You’ve probably had an experience of procrastinating on a task for weeks on end, losing sleep over it, even getting to a cold sweat having then to do it in just a matter of a few hours.
“Eat an elephant one bite at a time” so the saying goes.
Focus on what’s the next one minute action you can do to move this BIG ANIMAL forward. Is it opening up email and searching for last year’s tax returns? Is it simply opening an excel document. Is it locating that excel document in the first place? Starting with one single receipt?
Halt the energy drain by focusing on just one thing at a time.
20. Overarching Life Purpose
If you are a soul having a body experience then what are you here for really?
What are all of us here for after all?
Having gone through several past-life experiences and getting to know more about the soul world (and the true meaning of life!), the lesser life struggles don’t seem as daunting any more.
Fact is this (believe it or not).
You are a soul. You got to pick the body you are in. You got to pick some of the major experiences you’ve had and are about to go through. And you still left room for your own will power and choices that you can make while wearing your current body suit.
You are learning lessons. Or you keep repeating the same grade because you just can’t seem to learn that lesson you are trying to figure out.
Either you need to go out into the world and start learning some lessons, or you need to look back at your experiences already and see what kind of lessons you can gather from your past already. Do any of them repeat?
Do the same kind of people cross your path? Same sort of experiences?
Because when you begin to realize the lessons you’ve got to take from this life, your energy begins to magically expand and grow into the new and bigger You 2.0 who is about to take on even bigger challenges in life!
21. Next 90 Day Purpose
Life purpose is great and all but that kept me stuck for years on end. “What is my life purpose?” I kept asking myself.
Even though there is indeed an overall life purpose… thing is you won’t know you’ve hit it until you look back at your life with your 20/20 hindsight.
In the meantime think of your life as your next 90 day purpose.
It’s easy while you’re in school. Just finish your studies.
When you have a much broader spectrum of choices… then you lay out all of your choices and rate them using some kind of scale. You can include ratings 1-10 of how much you’d enjoy following that next 90 day purpose, how much money it may potentially bring, how much it may contribute to your growth, or how much unexpected positive returns it can bring without you realizing it yet.
Just pick one and go.
I tell this myself on a regular basis.
Being stuck in analysis-paralysis is my second name.
So don’t think about it as trying to figure out your life purpose. Just figure our what your next little project could be, perhaps a 90 day purpose instead?
22. Dealing with Overwhelm
Too much on your list.
That’s all that Overwhelm is about.
Well that, and… your current abilities are lacking a bit as to handle what you have in your cup.
I love the simplicity of how Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi puts it in his timeless book, “Flow” which was recommended to me initially by a young and talented Product Manager back when I worked at a ForEx platform Oanda:
Overwhelm is an anxious response to whatever it is that you are dealing with.
It also partly includes fear and imagination of the negative. This is the “flight” part of the “fight or flight” response, or it may even be a “freeze” as boy do I know how it is to be in there!
How do you deal with this? Get out of the anxious response. You can’t handle your problem from this state. It’s totally unresourceful!
“If you don’t have time to meditate for 5 minutes, then meditate for an hour.”
You don’t necessarily need to meditate. But you do need to find another activity that will get you back into your normal operating “green zone”.
For me… that’s active body activity. Moving. Walking. Playing squash.
Having somebody whisper into your ear all the wonderful things about you could help, too. I’m talking about upbeat Youtube videos, Audio programs, encouraging Audio books or even podcasts.
Taking care of smaller things like washing dishes, and cleaning around the house may also help as you get to move out of your anxiety AND get some things off of your to do list that caused it in the first place! HA!
Many times it was your thinking that got you deeper into this state. You, yourself trying to get out of it by EVEN MORE thinking may not always work.
Here’s where a coach, a friend or an external professional may be of use.
We are social beings overall, use the support network you have. Or go get one in the first place! You’d be surprised how many people are out there who would be happy to help you.
23. Controlling Inputs
If you ever feel like getting depressed about the situation the World is in today, just turn on the news.
That’s why they call it “TV Programming”. It programs your brain. And if only that.
Whether you believe it or not, general TV broadcasts also leave off programming on your personal energetic and magnetic fields as well. Including “mind control” that affects so many children and teenagers today.
It literally makes them, and you, not the person who they really are!
We can then extend this to the movies you watch, the people you hang around, the activities you do on a daily basis.
You are the average of the five people in your closest circle indeed.
If your family is not supportive, that sucks. You environment isn’t what you want it to be? Sorry to hear that.
But you are in control of what you let in.
You can choose the people you hang around. You CAN choose your place of work. You CAN choose what you do in the mornings, evenings and weekends.
In software programming there’s a term called GIGO, or Garbage IN – Garbage OUT.
If your inputs are not conducive to your highest and best interests, so will your outputs match them as well.
Your internal blackbox system of operation isn’t strong enough to convert the bad into good.
Why not make it easy on yourself? Change your inputs. THAT you control!
24. Beliefs Before Actions
Also can be called the WHY before WHAT.
Typically your actions are controlled by your beliefs. You do things because you have certain beliefs around them.
Believe it or not when I was about 12 or 13 years old I used to down a litre of Coca Cola (non-diet kind) each day!
I was pretty active so I didn’t have an issue with weight but this one event changed my beliefs for the rest of my life.
I was riding my bicycle to school one day through a busy intersection. And all of a sudden this sports car in front of me swings the door wide open leaving me no time to react.
Right through the door and the glass I go!
As I was getting up (in shock) and grabbed my bike, I felt my arm extend longer under the weight of the bike. I felt something was off. It shouldn’t have been as I was practicing these jumps and rolls on the ground with my martial arts practice all day long!
But indeed. I broke a bone. From what seemed like an easy fall.
Later I read into what may have happened and my attention got turned to coke robbing my bones off of the crucial calcium that holds the bones together.
I saw and felt my body and bones brittle! Because of drinking this Coka Cola thing.
From that moment on… my beliefs changed. My actions followed. I haven’t had a drink of a soda since then. Didn’t need to pay much attention to it. The new beliefs did all the work.
That’s how I approach studying other people’s behaviour as well. If there’s something I want to have what they have I don’t go about what it is they do in particular.
I enquire what do they believe that I need to believe first.
So how do you do change your beliefs?
It’s a study on its own. Has many practices.
In terms of money and financial prosperity I did the following even before getting to a level of comfort:
- Tip 20% or more, at times go for 50% and 100% tips to feel how it feels to know that the more you give the more you receive
- Hire a realtor, dress up and go around shopping for high value real estate properties. See how it feels to live in a multi-million dollar home with more washrooms than you can count on your fingers.
- Go to luxury hotels, at times spend the night there, but more often simply enjoy a cup of coffee and take in the vibe of those places. Listen to the conversations that people have. Indulge in what it would be to live a life like that.
You will NEVER jump above your current beliefs. So might as well start working on those…
25. Prioritizing Activities
You can’t always control how your day goes. I have a hard time sticking to an evening schedule that I set for myself.
I could but I choose not to. If it is not part of a long term habit it takes a toll on me. And at times I simply want to follow the flow.
Always curious what the Universe might deliver next.
As such… I need to prioritize things I REALLY need to do and get them done in the morning.
Here talking about $10,000/hour activities.
And top priority projects.
Here’s a Pop Quiz… which is more important – clean your washroom or write a book?
How about this one – meditate or work out?
And this – sleep or spend time with family?
At the end, each task will have its own place in the hierarchy. It may differ from day to day. Sometimes going to the washroom will trump taking on another call from a prospective client.
You’d think I’m joking but I have seen people’s schedules filled to the brim with NO time even for washroom breaks.
Just like with airplane oxygen mask, you put one of yourself first before you assist your child, you need to know and keep in mind priority of your day-to-day tasks.
Sometimes you have 2 hours to your morning routine. Other days you won’t even have 2 minutes.
That’s OK as long as you are aware of it.
And main thing is to allow yourself the freedom of mind to change it up once in a while. There’s no point being angry at yourself when your circumstance that you can’t even control won’t let you do the things you have planned to do.
Taking it easy on yourself fits perfectly here as well. High expectations gets me into trouble many times over. I underestimate how long things may take. And over time I’ve learned to be kind to myself even when I’m operating at top speed and still not getting any results.
When that happens though I immediately look over what I did that day, that week or that month and see if my priorities were how they should be. Or how I wanted them to be… aligned to the goals I may have set.
Plus remember, even with your prioritization… EVERYTHING you do develops a habit.
$50 tip… make it a priority to develop a habit!
26. Mind Control and Brainwashing
I’ll lose many people with this item here.
Believe whatever you want. I’m not here to convert you to my ways of thinking.
What I’m sharing with you comes from experience and having seen it work from time and time again.
First… the simple stuff.
I had to undo the brainwashing I got. From parents (not their fault at all!), from communist upstarts (I was born in Communist Soviet Era), from society of workers, and from TV programming (see above).
I started to brainwash myself on my own accord. The brainwashing I personally and consciously controlled.
This included starting on autopilot various audio programs whenever I got in the car. It became my car library.
I even got a pillow speaker so I could listen to things while I slept (the jury is still out on effectiveness of this technique… I stopped doing after my girlfriend complained!)
Then the deeper I went the darker it got.
There are things like HAARP technology and satellite frequencies used to dumb you down. During some of the unrests in Europe and Middle East, these frequencies were turned up to life-threatening levels and from what I understand they haven’t been turned down.
There are esoteric mind control practices being programmed into Disney movies, songs, commercials. Don’t even get me started about porn and video games!
All these things affect who you are, what you think and how you live.
Removing mind control is something I help with only at the upper levels of my personal coaching programs, and you must be a person who first needs to recognize this before you can get the energy to battle against this and protect yourself going forward.
Just note that once you understand how this works it will become like second nature for you to clean your mind and energy bodies around you… just like you brush your teeth in the mornings.
It is dark but there is light at the end of the tunnel!
27. State Control
I left the best for last.
THIS comes up in my day to day conversations the most.
Your state defines how you experience yourself.
It doesn’t matter if you are stuck in a concentration camp (thank you Mr. Frankl for your masterpiece, “Man’s Search for Meaning”) or you are on vacation in the middle of a paradise… your State controls how you feel, your thoughts, your actions and therefore results.
Since my Tony Robbins days I dove even deeper into things like “Living from the Heart” and when you find yourself in harmony with things happening around you, you begin to recognize how the World works exactly in a way you make it.
Your thoughts… and your emotions is what creates your reality.
And those are controlled by your State.
When you are in a resourceful state, you have little to no problems. Everything flows. There’s little that can shake you.
When you are in an unresourcesful state.. your World seems like everything is coming crushing down. No solutions are possible. And the longer you stay in this state, the worse it’s going to get!
The harder it will be to get out.
State Control has been my life’s study so far. There are many more strategies that go into this. The above 27 Energy Management Principles all have something to do with managing your state.
It is my hope that you take with you what resonates and leave the rest behind.
Don’t make this just a mental exercise.
See what you can implement.
My best recommendation is to start with measuring yourself on 1-10 scale each and every day. How do you feel today? What is your state 1-10?
With time what you measure improves.
This is what I’ll be focusing on with the up and coming #GetToThe10 book and program.
In the meantime, please do let me know if this helped you in any way and what you are planning to use it for… all of this new found energy in your day-to-day living!
“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibrationNicola Tesla